Saturday 20 December 2014

This Xmas ... be your own version of BeYOUfiful.


And so this is XmasAnd what is the go?…Another year older and fatter to show

“SOOOO great to see you Jilinda … you look G R E A T …
Your new environment is obviously agreeing with you” .

OK … so when you’ve stopped looking me up and down … YES, I’m carrying 5 kilos extra than last year … in fact 5 kilos more than I’ve ever weighed. So what? … Does that make me a lesser person? … You’re kidding right? That makes no sense at all as I am actually a greater person on mass J  

2014 has been a huge year for me … I’ve been through much change and many new experiences in the past year: ... sold our dream house at the beach, moved interstate to the country, learned heaps of new stuff, coached and mentored others, delivered group workshops, travelled heaps, given inspirational presentations to other women, started writing regular blogposts, upgraded my website, project managed a rather major downsize and restructure, explored lots of new towns and met lots of new people …  I really think I’ve massively grown during 2014 … mind, body and soul!

So … please don’t simply judge me by my appearance … Yep, I may look another year older and fatter ... but you don’t know what this mind, body and soul has been through and the goals I’ve achieved this year.  Sure, one of them may not have been my 2014 fitness goal … so what.

Your judgement doesn’t define who I am … it defines who YOU are.

Women are so obsessed with being the kind of  ‘beautiful’ as defined by magazines, media, shops, internet, peers, family … it's freakin’ everywhere.   The loud message is that if you are not a size 6 -10 [regardless of age & natural body shape], you are failing to meet the ‘generally acceptable’ level of attractiveness or beauty.  Well, I'm over it ... starving yourself and becoming obsessed with exercise does not make for a happy life ... it is all about living a life to [supposedly] meet others shallow expectations.

Don’t get me wrong … I like to be fit and healthy, wear nice clothes, look after my skin, and have a funky, individual hair style … I love feeling beautiful in my own skin;   BUT I don't have to be size 10 to feel beautiful ... I’ve not been a size 10 since I was 10 years old!  Being size 10 doesn’t make me more attractive [in fact I’d look rather gaunt and more aged].  My natural shape is curvy, muscly, booby, broad shouldered, and it’s not the type of body that stays looking fit and toned without hours of daily exercise, rigorous fitness training and diets of lettuce leaves, washed down with nothing but water.  I don’t need to do all that to feel ‘beautiful’.

I AM beautiful I love having my own individual style – taking the time to choose clothes that are flattering to my shape, in bright colours that match my out-there personality and inner strength.  I love that my body is physically strong too … I enjoy strength training and gardening [yes, I can lift heavy pots and bags of soil]. I feel beautiful [and blessed] from within … I love my level of intelligent thought, my strong values and priorities in life, the fact that I have many choices and the freedom to choose … embracing the adventures, new experiences and life-long learning that changes bring. I find beauty in all of that … it’s a whole package  – not a size number.

Beauty comes from having your own style, living your own way
and knowing your own mind.

So  … should we just ignore weight gains … not mention it ...  not have health and fitness goals?

No …  I DO care that I’m carrying a little more weight this year?  Do you think I haven’t noticed that some of my fitted skirts are too tight to wear comfortably … or don’t even do up? Of course I’ve noticed …  while I’m not one to hop on the bathroom scales every day and have that number dictate how I feel for the day [ha, how can a number MAKE you feel anything?!] … I’m definitely aware that some of my fav outfits are not a wearable option at present.  

Doesn’t that make me annoyed? … Yeah, sure … annoyed at myself for not pushing through those non-motivated winter days, and allowing the change of circumstances that have meant what I used to do [beach walks, hill climbs and swims], I can’t now do in my current environment.  BUT … I also know that was yesterday … and I can’t change how I chose to respond to yesterday's options.  What I CAN DO is choose to try harder and do it better today and tomorrow … and make new, more suitable goals for 2015.

Don’t waste time berating myself for yesterday’s efforts … all I can do is BE, DO and HAVE a better today and tomorrow.

Does the extra weight make me feel less beautiful? … No, well - not really, nothing that sticks to me these days.  Just occasional niggling voices that come up from my deep past, as I was brought up in an extremely judgemental environment … one that valued hard work over laziness, and the judgement that over-weight people = laziness. The same soul-destroying, perfectionist story that I took into my first marriage about what ‘a perfect wife and mother’ should be like and look like … but that’s a ‘yester-year’ thing, and I laugh now when I think of the shallowness of that type of judgemental thinking.

When I embraced ME as a whole, unique package – I realised beauty is so much more than external attributes, specifically sized packages, or carefully applied make-up … YES, beauty comes from within ... from the inside out.

No amount of dieting, fitness training or makeup can cover up an ugly personality.

I love having an 'out-there', unique, individualist, strong-minded personality, encased in a slightly larger than ‘magazine’ average body with curves … living a fairly fit and healthy life in line with my values and beliefs. You see, that way ... I’m in competition with no one … not trying to look like others, or live to other’s expectations ... no numbers on the scales, no ‘must have’ dictations, no unrealistic demands from peers or those I spend time with.  My inner strength comes from believing in myself ... individualism that builds immense personal power. That's beautiful J

I also choose to share my life with a REAL partner  … one who shares the same values and loves the WHOLE me, the complete package, as I am, [lumps and bumps] … neither of us wanting the ‘trying- to- be- perfect- to- meet- others- expectations’ version.  I feel most beautiful in the arms of the man I love … no designer clothes or 'perfect body' can ever make me feel more beautiful than to be touched and loved by my man.

So my message to you this Xmas … as you share with family and friends is to chill out and simply:
Be-YOU-tiful

You are going to be in your body for a long time … you might as well get comfortable in it and enjoy showing off your full package – your mind, body and soul. 

Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful

Rock on …. Jingle those bells, don your gay apparel and have a beautiful Xmas holiday period.


Be YOU, nobody else does it better.

Tuesday 11 November 2014

The FOUR important questions successful people ask ... Part 4 - WHY NOT NOW?








QUESTION 4 – WHY NOT NOW?

Do you remember what the word ‘NOW’ meant as a child ? … I recall it being often used with that urgent, raised and directive tone, sometimes followed by counting 1, 2, 3 … !  It meant:
                  ‘hop right to that’ … ‘ don’t delay’ … ‘just do it’  …  ‘the clock is ticking’ … 
and often not doing it now, meant less than pleasant consequences!  

Yet … somewhere along life’s path of growing up,  making our own decisions, and having lots of choices, we learn lots of reasons [and excuses] why NOW might not be the optimal time … we become more hesitant, perhaps more cautious, maybe even a tad complacent.  And somehow, ducks lining up becomes a necessity.

This is the fourth and final blog in this series … and this question – WHY NOT NOW? is number 4 of the all important questions that successful people ask themselves, for good reason.  I have previously written about:  WHY? [a great place to start questioning the status quo] … WHY NOT? [my favourite challenging question] … WHY NOT ME? [addressing the inner voice and fears];  so if you haven’t already, perhaps read those blogs first.  WHY?  … because when you have clearly, openly and honestly answered the first 3 questions, the fourth one becomes less of a real challenge.

So … WHY NOT NOW? … is today’s question.  Yes, another challenging one … fits in with all those years of nagging reminder sayings in our heads like:
now is as good a time as any’
‘time is passing by quickly’
‘when opportunity knocks, jump on it’
‘if I don’t do it, someone else will ’
‘seriously, it’s now or never’
‘NOW is the only time we have … yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not a given’

Geez, just writing these straight out of my head is like being slapped in the face over and over … it’s a real wake-up call to action.   I mean … how many times have you had a great idea or a half completed plan that you’ve sat on for a while, then find out that others have jumped on it and you’ve missed a good opportunity to showcase what you can do? … Seriously, I’ve lost count.

So why don’t we just JUMP to it? Many of us are creative thinkers … have great ideas … make a lot of ‘should do’ lists.  I love creating stuff: planning out my week on the whiteboard and designing new programs on butchers paper stuck all over my wall … gotta love self-stick butchers paper, bright coloured pens, flow charts, drawings, inspirational quotes, continually tweaking my website J  Creative thinking is fun … like playtime or make-believe or perhaps ‘blue skying’.  All good stuff … and I can do that all day, every day … but that doesn’t make me or my business a success.   At some point [maybe NOW?] … the rubber has to hit the road.

Taking action is where the NOW comes into play. It’s all good to know WHY you are doing things – your purpose and intent … to challenge yourself to WHY NOT do that innovative thing or make that change … to question WHY NOT ME – build belief in your own ability … but, if you don’t DO it, you won’t succeed.   To say, ‘someday’ … ‘one day soon’ … ‘maybe next year’ … is not a plan of action; it’s a concept at best, a whim and whine at worse. It’s what happens to many New Year’s resolutions, and the ‘gonna-doers’ with their all talk – no action habits.

When I’m facilitating a brainstorm session towards action planning with a work group, I use this simple 3-step framework:  We start with:

1.       WHAT [options / ideas / possible solutions]
2.       SO WHAT [what will give us the outcomes we want - prioritised into top 3-5]
3.       NOW WHAT [specific action, by who, by when, how - with what support]
It’s the word NOW … that makes the difference … not - ‘by the end of 2015’ … more like -‘by COB next Monday or by next staff meeting in 2 weeks, we will have … ‘.  NOW WHAT is a good way to list specific actions with short timeframes, for a ‘we need it NOW’ approach. 

Lets get back to the question … WHY NOT NOW?  If you are like me [come on -  I’m not the only one], you can make priority lists with short timeframes every week, every day actually … but that doesn’t mean we always action them NOW.  Right?  Yep … in fact, an example that epitomises that point is this very blog … it’s been 6 weeks since I posted Question 3 in this series, so according to my initial plan, this one is several weeks late.

Procrastination is a bitch!  There are all sorts of excuses as to why we don’t do things NOW … or in the short timeframes we plan. Here are 3 top ones, from my personal experience and insights ... and how to overcome them:

1. Competing priorities or the inability to prioritise [everything is important?]. 
When you have made your priority list, but then other things become more important and you allow them to take over … STOP, and reassess … WHY?  Are the new items simply more exciting? … Do you REALLY need to do that right now? … Can you schedule the new thing  for another day?  For some of us, it is the next shiny new idea that comes along and tempts us to park the previous unfinished one. I know what it’s like to have too many great ideas … all at once! Learn to focus on completing the task at hand, by parking new ideas to the side for later. I use 4 small whiteboards, or 4 stick-up paper sheets ... ideally, on the wall in front of my desk, with:

  •  TODAY [right in front of me - middle, slightly above eye level]
  •  THIS WEEK [just off to the right]
  •  THIS MONTH or QUARTER [over on the left]
  •  PARKED IDEAS [well off to the left side, out of direct vision unless I turn my head] 

2.  Perfectionism those damm ducks again!
Is NOW not the absolute right time? … not ready yet? … are you often needing everything to line up just perfectly … and there is seemingly always more detail that needs to be done, before rolling out or starting that task, or completing it NOW.  Do you have trouble knowing when enough is enough, when to just DO IT / finish it? As an experienced creator and planner, I know how to chunk projects down into sequential tasks … it’s just that I’m often waiting for several ducks to line up in a specific order … or I go looking for more of them - fatter, brighter coloured ducks to keep increasing the size and tweaking the look of the perfection circle.  It is fear that causes perfectionism ... one of the most common ones: the fear of not being enough [not good enough] ... which I wrote about in my last blog.

3. Overwhelm mindful focus discipline.
Firstly, forget multitasking – believe me, it doesn’t work. Recent Neuroscience research shows that it actually jumbles the neurons in our brains and slows down our productivity and achievements. When you are constantly switching from one task to another, it is difficult to get anything done or completed. Women especially need to address this … we are serial multi-taskers and our lives are often in overwhelm  … ‘of course women multi-task … we have to … many of us have three jobs - [career, house management, child care]’.  Perhaps … but we also have choices and don’t have to do it all [get help], or all at once.  It’s not about juggling several balls in the air … it’s about picking up one ball at a time and choosing to be in charge of how you manage your life [... and that’s a whole other blog series!].

Yes … we live in a world of constant distractions.  Like many of us, I have discovered I achieve more of my goals by simply ‘switching off’ to get tasks done [switching off phones, Facebook, emails, TV, background music, etc] … and mindfully focus on completing one thing at a time. My best writing time is in the quietness of late evening … or the calming environment of a secluded spot, sitting beside the ocean or river [not at my desk full of e-distractions].

So ... there are lots of reasons why we procrastinate … I’ve only touched the surface with these three that have regularly impacted on me. Sometimes it is fear that holds us back, or perhaps not having a strong enough purpose or reason to act.  The important thing is to become more acutely aware of when it’s happening, so you can:

change your thinking … change your behaviour … 

change your habits


One of the best ways to overcome procrastination is to make sure you have a strong, compelling reason to do it NOW.  To do that, you need to firstly focus on the pain points of not doing it … ask yourself:  What is it costing you? … what has it cost you in the past? … if you don’t achieve this, then what? … how will that feel?

Then … when you see clearly that old routine and outcome is not working for you, and you are no longer willing to accept that … turn your focus on the pleasure of achieving that thing:  What will it give you? ... How great will that be? ...  How will that feel?  Focus strongly on the outcome and get excited like it’s already happened.

So why not do that NOW!  Successful people jump on ideas and make them happen, with a mindful determination to succeed.  

Sure, I’m not there yet … but I’m much more aware when the procrastination, perfectionism and overwhelm creeps in … and I’m choosing to say ‘YES I can, YES I will’, more often than ‘not ready yet’. 


If you need an extra push and an encouraging, experienced voice on the sideline, a personal coach is a great way to implement better strategies, embed new behaviours and better habits. To get started today - Contact me for a personal Vital VERVE Probe coaching session  ... 


WHY NOT NOW?


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Thursday 25 September 2014

The FOUR important questions successful people ask ... Part 3 - WHY NOT ME?


QUESTION 3 - WHY NOT ME?

Out of the four all important questions that successful people ask, regularly ... this is perhaps the most challenging for many ... including ME.  Actually, on reflection ... it is interesting how long I've procrastinated writing this next blog post, compared to the first two in this series;  weeks!  Asking 'WHY?' and 'WHY [the hell] NOT?' just seems to flow from my head to my mouth without pushing. Asking WHY ME? ... well that strikes my core … challenges me to question what stops ME taking action.

In the two previous blogs of this series of 4, I talked about the question 'WHY' being a perfectly good question; definitely a long held habit of mine based on curiosity ... and my absolute favourite question being 'WHY NOT'; the stronger challenging question that is driven from an attitude of continually seeking better options.  Asking 'WHY NOT' feeds the need to explore richer colour, deeper texture and 'outside-the-box' thinking ... to live a fuller life ... and champion change. 

If you haven't started there, I suggest you read the previous blogs first -  PART 1 - WHY? and PART 2 - WHY NOT?

We ask WHY questions because we are searching for answers ... solutions to stuff not working ...        new ways, innovative ideas, exploring options, and seeking growth.


So ... let’s say you have come up with some great new ideas ... or some obvious ones that others in your team or community seem to avoid jumping on  ... and it's clear that to make positive changes, someone has to influence it, drive it, lead it ... so, the question that comes up is:
WHY NOT ME? ...

Who me? ... Yep YOU.   Why NOT YOU?  Do you often hear that inner challenging voice? I'm wondering if there is another, some-what louder voice that comes up within a nano-second of the first thought ... that shouts:
"I can’t' do that "
"What if I fail?"
"What if they reject my ideas and don't support the program?"
"I'm not experienced enough ... qualified enough ... smart enough ... confident enough ... connected enough ...  thin enough ... attractive enough ... basically - I'm not good enough"
"I'm not ready"

It is these thoughts that hold us back from having a go ... from being at the forefront to lead change ... from starting our own businesses ... from promoting our expertise more broadly ... or perhaps from simply saying what we think in meetings and leaning in to decision making tables. These inner thoughts are driven by our FEARS.   It is our own fear that stops us in our tracks, stops us from progressing, holds us back from making real changes in our own lives, and a real difference in our communities. 

We can put numerous names to types of FEARs ... but generally they will fall into these three core fears:

1.       FEAR OF FAILURE [making mistakes / not getting desired results]
2.       FEAR OF REJECTION [not being loved / liked / accepted / supported]
3.       FEAR OF NOT BEING ENOUGH [linked to concern over others expectations or what others think]

Personally ... I believe the greatest of these is the "fear of not being good enough" ... and this comes from comparing ourselves with others ... often over-estimating what we think others may expect ... and under-estimating the skills, passion and drive we can bring to the program. 

The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think


This is a particularly crippling fear for many talented, potentially inspirational women ... we are constantly marketed to and conditioned to feel like we don't measure up to 'the ideal' women, 'the perfect' mother,  'the super-women' who does it all and still looks great on the front of a magazine cover.  We women put ourselves under so much more pressure to 'be good enough' than most men ever worry about.

An interesting researched fact that illustrates this, is that most women will not put their hand up for a career promotion unless they feel they have 90-120% of the skills and experience which THEY believe the job requires [that is: - job description + their own expectations + what they think others will expect of them].  Too often women think "I'm not ready" for that. Men, on the other hand, will often go for the same career promotion with as little as 50% of what the job description outlines ... believing that they have the ability to grow into it.

YOU CAN CHANGE THIS ... 
The first thing is to be aware of what the core fear is that is stopping you from stepping forward to do what you know you really want to do ... recognise what is coming up for you and name that sucker! 
The second and most important thing is to know that core fear comes from inside YOU ... which means YOU have originally created it!  When that risk-adverse voice comes up for me [and yes, it still does at times], I like to recall this quote:

"The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can't achieve it" - Jordan Belfort

My point is this: Fears are just stories we tell ourselves ... and if you have initially created these stories that stop you from BEing YOU and doing the things you want to do ... then you can change that now by simply creating new stories to tell yourself.  

Learn to question your own fears ... a great question to ask yourself is:  REALLY?

FAILURE?  If I make a mistake or things don't turn out quite like I thought they would ... is it really a failure?  What if I learned from that and tried a slightly different direction or a new option?  

Do you think that Richard Branson NEVER makes a mistake? ... or tried ideas that didn't quite work? Successful people know that the path to greatness is not a straight, upwards pointing arrow ... it is a zig-zag path of learnings.

REJECTION?  If some people don't like the program, or don't support your ideas ... does it really matter ... does it really decrease the value of it? What if they are simply risk-adverse and held back by a fear that you have already overcome? What if you surrounded yourself with only those 5-6 supportive people who lift you higher?

Successful people are often the ones who go out on a limb ... think differently, are different, are daring, are impractical and anything but slaves to the ordinary or average ...  and these are usually the ones that end up making a difference in the world. Most innovative successes have come from small groups of people doing things differently ... not following crowd opinion.

NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH?  Really?  ... by whose standards? What if there was no competition?  ... What if you embraced your authentic self and simply acknowledged that you are an awesome, imperfect, unique individual with valid opinions and ideas ... that there is no one like you and therefore you are in competition with no one?

When you believe in yourself and all that you are, you know that there is something unique inside you that is greater than any blockage or created fear.

Believe in yourself ... you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think

Those who know me ... know that I embrace individuality, uniqueness, standing out and being different.  From appearance - funky hair, clothing combinations, tattoos and piercings -> to continually researching new ideas ... I have no desire to look like, copy or be like anyone else. I recognised this as a strength from a very young age ... perhaps initially as a rebellion from the highly conservative, strict, judgmental environment I was raised in [more on my journey in my up-coming book]... and in later years,  with an awesome feeling of freedom from not having to conform to others expectations,  I became confident to question status quo and passionate about leading change. Why wouldn't I?  

When you embrace your individuality, and proudly be YOU ... there is no desire to follow the flock, nor will you lose sleep over the opinion of the other sheep.  

Successful people influence, initiate and lead change ... and the world needs more people to step forward and help drive that.

WHY NOT ME? WHY NOT YOU?  

Not yet? ... not the right timing? ... not ready? ... not interested in being out front? 

IF NOT YOU, THEN WHO? ... 

Why not initiate the conversation ... influence the direction ... support others to lead the change. 
Don't be content with being a sheep ... 

Be a game changer ... the world has enough followers. 


Perhaps you are often thinking 'not yet' ... procrastinating and full of excuses? ... make sure you read my next blog - Question 4 - WHY NOT NOW? 

If you'd like to explore your unique strengths with someone who can help you get to the core of what stops you from stepping forward, standing out and speaking up, engage a Life / Leadership Coach  ... I would be happy to help or refer you to someone else who can assist you.

Stay tuned for Part 4 - WHY NOT NOW? 



Tuesday 9 September 2014

The FOUR important questions successful people ask ... Part 2 - WHY NOT?



QUESTION 2 - WHY NOT? ... 

WHY NOT WHAT? ...
                                  Why not ...              
raise your head ... open your eyes ...
look up ... look forward ... look broadly ...
be the real YOU ... be noticed ...
actively search for other ideas ...
 do something differently  ... do something else ... 
try a new thing ... dare to have a go ... 
go that extra mile ... do more than what's expected ... 
surprise them ... shock them ... 

maybe surprise and shock yourself ... 

YOU will be amazed at what you can achieve from asking yourself ... WHY [the hell] NOT?


In the previous blog of this series of four,  I talked about the question 'WHY' being a perfectly good question, a favourite of mine. Living a life of WHY-ing curiosity not only builds valuable knowledge, it also provides clarity ... you get to hear various opinions and really work out what YOU think, what YOU believe, what floats your boat in life ... and what doesn't. So, asking WHY helps you to know YOUR WHY and get clear on your purpose in life. 
If you haven't started there ... you may like to read the previous blog first -  PART 1 - WHY?

Now ... having said previously that WHY is a fav question of mine, I must admit that the second question that pops up for me - absolutely trumps that! WHY NOT? It's stronger ... it's where I go next to make sense of what I've just seen or heard ... it's where my knowledge, broad experiences, confidence, individuality, strong leadership drive, and a little WTF attitude kicks in ... to push ahead further ... to explore what's stopping me [and others] from taking the next step. 


WHY NOT? is a powerful question ... 
Lets start with YOU.  This question - WHY NOT? -  is a great way to challenge your own thinking ... especially if that little doubting voice of: ... 'I can't do that' ... pops up.   WHY can't you? Is it really that you 'can't', or more like you've decided you 'won't'.  How do you know you can't, if you haven't tried?  At what stage in your life did you decide 'this is it' ... 'this is all there will be' ... 'it's too late to change now'.  Why would you choose to do that?  Why not keep learning ... keep experiencing new things ... add some excitement and passion into your life?  

Yep ... I ask a lot of questions in my blogs. I have a genuine intent and purpose in doing so: ... I want you to be challenged, to question yourself first before you focus on questioning everyone else.  My purpose is to encourage you to be the greatest version you can be ... to feel successful in your own life, so you can model that for others. 

Powerful questions like - WHY NOT? - causes the start of many great conversations with the nay-sayers and risk adverse people ... helping to get to the core of their negative or anti-change responses. Some get power from saying NO [like having the 'balance of power' in politics] ... it is often their ego and need for significance that drives that response.  Many are simply fearful of the unknown [or change] ... stuck in their own comfort zones and scared the 'new' might not be 'better'. 

I love exploring options further with others to find out: ... 'WHY they say NO to considering other options' ... 'WHY they don't want to change' ... 'WHY they think it won't work'. It's a way to show them that often there are other choices they haven't considered. It's where you say NO to being pushed into a way-too-small box and YES to breaking down the walls to check out more possibilities.

WHY NOT? is a colourful question ...
In case you haven't noticed, I love Zebra stripe print. I also admire the Zebra animal ... it stands out from the other animals in the field ... each one is also distinguishable from it's fellow Zebra as each has it's own unique markings ... an individuality statement. So, even though the Zebra is perhaps simply black and white ... it makes a striking, bold statement. 

Now ladies, we know that while wearing black and white clothing can be quite striking, adding a splash of bright colour like red, or yellow, or rich blue ... can really take that outfit to the next level of boldness ... personalising it with your own individual style. How boring would the world be if everything was in black and white?

Similarly ... asking -WHY NOT? questions can do the same.  Like experimenting with colour, it adds the life and contrast into BLACK or WHITE ... YES or NO ... RIGHT or WRONG ... only THIS or only THAT. 

WHY NOT? is a BOLD question ...
Yes, it takes courage to challenge the status quo ... in yourself and others. The easy option may be to 'go with the flow' or simply keep accepting mediocre behaviour and average options ... but the best results comes from exploring the possibilities and grasping hold of the opportunities. 

Life is too short to not take action on the 'what ifs' and 'why nots'.  I really don't think anyone would lay on their death bed and say: ..."I wish I did less, experienced less, travelled less, tried less stuff ... ". Hmmmm ... now that's an interesting left-field thought ... and puts a good dose of reality into it. 

Successful people ask WHY NOT? ... a lot. They know there are always more options and ideas that they haven't thought of or tried yet. The world needs people who are willing to stand out from the average ... people who will inspire much needed change in their communities ... 

The world needs people who are bold enough to ask: WHY NOT? 


If you'd like to explore your WHY NOT with someone who can help you get to the core of what stops you from being the greatest version you can be, engage a Life / Leadership Coach  ... I would be happy to help or refer you to someone else who can assist you.


Stay tuned for Part 3 - WHY NOT ME? ...
... where I will share more about how to build your personal power and identify the fears that stop many from stepping up, standing out, and speaking up.